Successive confinements in connection with the COVID-19 epidemic were not without consequences for married life many French people. Many couples do not come out of this particular period unscathed. as an Ifop poll shows made for the wedding preparation site YesWeBloom.com. Thus, the organization affirms that “behind the relative stability of marital status of the French observed since March 2020, a certain wait-and-see attitude could augur a significant increase in disunity when the crisis is over. Proof of this is: one in four people in a relationship (27%) admit having wanted to break with her spouse during this period.
This temptation has particularly affected young couples (under 30), the most economically or financially precarious (net monthly income per individual less than € 900) and the French in large metropolitan areas who, like those in the greater Paris area, generally live in more cramped housing. This long forced cohabitation has indeed provoked the appearance of several reasons for tension, different according to the sex. For women who feel that confinement has weakened their relationship, it is the lack of communication which comes first (70%), ahead of sexual disagreement (64%) or work-related stress (59%).
“The strong promiscuity accentuates the pre-existing difficulties”
But among men, it is the differences in sexual needs (67%) that have played the most, far ahead of other problems like work-related stress, lack of time spent together, disagreements over money or lack of communication (54 to 58%). “For many French people, the living conditions imposed by this health crisis, in particular the strong promiscuity or the constant presence of the partner, have indeed accentuated the pre-existing difficulties, making these closed doors a real ordeal for their couple to the point of considering breaking up with their spouse. “, Emphasizes François Kraus, director of the“ Gender, sexualities and sexual health ”pole of Ifop.
While many French people have considered leaving their partner, few have crossed the threshold of separation between the start of the first confinement (March 17, 2020) and the end of the third (May 19, 2021). Blame it on a period of great economic and social uncertainty where the couple is experienced as an anchor. In fact, 89% of individuals aged 18 to 69 have the same marital situation as before the first confinement and conversely, only 1 in 10 French people have experienced a change in their marital situation since the 1st confinement, of which 8% have gone through a separation. Only the younger generations are the exception since their unions have been more often broken or renewed.
Towards a divorce record once the health crisis is over for good?
The survey shows that 20% of young people under 25 no longer have the same marital situation than in March 2020, including 7% who are now alone when they were in a relationship and 6% who have a different partner than before the first “lockdown”. But this stability would be more like a countdown to at least a million couple, because if this desire to break up seems for many to have remained at the stage of intention, a certain number of people in a relationship nevertheless express the wish to take action once the health crisis has passed: 12% of couples want to distance themselves with their partner at the end of the crisis, of which 4% definitively.
“The lack of action is symptomatic of a certain wait-and-see attitude, after all classic in a time of crisis (war, economic crisis), which is undoubtedly due to the fear of loneliness, especially in the conditions of isolation and meeting imposed by Covid-19, but also for practical (housing, children’s school, etc.) and financial reasons, a separation generally resulting in a drop in the standard of living for the former spouses. », Adds François Kraus. Gender and age occupy a preponderant place in the desire to put an end to his relationship : 14% of men say they want to distance themselves, especially young people (23% under 30), against 10% of women.
It turns out that the perceived value in the dating market comes into play strongly in the willingness to leave his / her partner : men with a very good opinion of their physique are nearly 4 in 10 wanting to distance themselves at the end of the Covid crisis (38%). A phenomenon also observed among the fairer sex, with nearly one in five women (19%) having a very good opinion of his physique who wishes to distance himself. “Thus, if it turns out to be risky to predict a ‘divorce boom’ at the immediate end of the crisis, it is likely that we will witness a significant increase in disunity when the health and economic context will make it easier marital breakdowns. », Concludes François Kraus.