If you follow the wellness trends, you may be familiar with the concepts of hygge, who comes from Denmark, the lagom, from Sweden, and the còsagach, from Scotland. But a new book written by Korean-American journalist and author Euny Hong has opened up to the general public about the plan to korean wellness called nunchi. This principle, which dates back more than 5,000 years, promises to establish trust, harmony and connection. His secret? Talk less and listen more.
The author explains that nunchi is the art of using all of your senses to understand what others think and feel. The word nunchi means “ocular measurement”, and would therefore allow measure something with the eyes, through observation and listening. Its main principles can be summarized as:
- be quiet when you enter new situations or unknown;
- done trust your eyes and ears to guide you;
- Listen twice as much as you speak;
- trust theintuition ;
- Do not confuse anxiety and intuition. Anxiety is often felt in the chest, while intuition is felt in the stomach;
- if some integrate nunchi from birth, others can learn it.
Euny Hong notes that the technology can make nunchi more difficult to practice, but not impossible. She suggests limiting the number of virtual exchanges, and favoring face to face.
In the social situations, nunchi can be useful for interact and identify sensitive subjects. Leave space for others to express themselves and speak more than you. But avoid emotional topics at first, as they can often get out of hand. By listening, you’ll be able to notice frowns, or a fake smile, and change the subject if you feel the other person is embarrassed.
Nunchi also applies to workplace, fertile ground for aggressive behavior. Pay attention to the details. If you want to ask for a raise, check the mood of the person you’re talking to. Do you perceive stress? If so, you may be able to reschedule the appointment.
When you start trading, let the other person talk more than you. His way of communicating will give you clues on how you can position yourself and ask your questions. The same goes for a job interview: let the person who hires you lead the conversation. Good negotiators are above all people ready to listen.