[Mise à jour du 26/07/2021]
The most popular sex positions according to a survey
The Zava medical consultation site carried out a vast investigation in 2016 with 2,000 Europeans and Americans, who expressed their sexual preferences from the sexual positions described.
Verdict: the doggy style is the big winner since 35% of respondents say they prefer it, ahead of the missionary, who seduced 22.5% of those questioned. The position of the Andromache, with the woman positioned above, won 3rd place on the podium, with 19.4%. Less known but also more complex, the other positions described in the study (69, square, anal sex, spoons…) each won only 1.2 to 4.3% of the vote.
The survey also shows variations in preferences according to sex, probably due to the fact that a sexual position does not offer the same stimulation to both partners, and that it sometimes requires a certain flexibility. Doggy style, however, is unanimous among respondents regardless of their gender. Anal sex wins more votes for men than for women, while the reverse is true for the cart position.
Preferences in terms of sexual positions also vary by sexual orientation and country. The Poles, for example, prefer the position of the spoons, while the Italians questioned opt for the Andromache. France, UK, and Germany prefer doggy style.
Note that the fear of hurting his / her partner is the first fear cited by men when it comes to trying new positions. Women are more worried about hurting themselves or not being flexible enough to do it.
Sexuality: 4 positions that speak volumes
Among the countless positions of the Kâma Sutra, why do we prefer the doggy style rather than the Amazon? The body has its language, find out what it says.
Of course, we prefer the positions that give us the most pleasure, and obviously, there are a thousand ways to make love. But opting for a doggy style the first night or systematically finding yourself as a missionary is no accident.
These descriptions are fictitious. Any resemblance to reality is to be attributed to the latter.
The missionary position
Who am I ? You are sensitive, reliable, shy or slightly anxious. You like this position because for you it is the perfect representation of loving union. Everyone is in their place. We look at each other and kiss. This is the top position to reach orgasm according to 72% of women.
You can manage your rhythm, make sure of the pleasure you get by seeing the face of your loved one … It’s reassuring, tender, and strong at the same time. So you can allow yourself all kinds of variations without taking too many risks. Yes, okay you are a little cautious, but what lover would not be?
Where am i from?
“The missionary is a cultural position with a religious basis and a notion of submission”, affirms Yves Ferroul, sexologist, and writer.
In addition, it was once feared that the sperm would leak and that the precious semen would be lost. This position, therefore, had the undeniable virtue of having a receptacle effect and thus guard against the sin of Onan (son of Judah, he threw away his sperm to prevent reproduction). For this same reason, the prostitutes could be found on the man: no reproduction envisaged or conceivable.
Where am I going ? As you can see, this position has always existed. In short, we love it, we don’t risk leaving it, but sometimes we want to go and see elsewhere if we are there.
Read also: Why does the missionary position please so much?
The doggy style position
Who am I ? You are more of a man, although more and more women are adopting you. You are curious, open, but you lack self-confidence, even if you can’t see it. You like the love that goes boom because you express your animality in this way. You enjoy sex for the sake of sex because you focus on its physical aspect.
In this position, you know, you can hardly miss it. Your rivals will say that you hide your sentimental insecurity, that you compensate by overexposing yourself, or that you avoid attachment … It makes you wonder if they would not have deserved a big spanking!
Where do i come from? The Latin name had the merit of being clear: coitus more ferarum (“like animals do”). Today, French speakers see it as a bitch: the greyhound is the female of the greyhound. Like the English speakers who nickname this position doggy style (in dog mode). Italians and Indians, no doubt as macho as we are, have also attributed a feminine name to the latter: for some, it is a goat (a pecorino); for the others, a cow.
Where am I going ? In any case, you do not go there in four ways! Like your little friend the missionary, you were not born late and you have bright days ahead of you. We love you, but we see you everywhere these days, so if you could get some fresh air, that would make us a vacation.
To read also: Doggy style, why does this sexual position please so much?
The position of the Andromache or the Amazon
Who am I ? You are confident, playful or downright arrogant. You love and know how to share sexually. You often adopt a cavalier attitude because, for you, pleasure comes from adventure. From now on, you thrive “in bed”, although you often leave it for an entrance porch, a sunny beach, a starry night … In short, any unusual place to deflower!
Yet it reminds you of the wrong move. Above: you play the connoisseur by feigning movements that you do not experience and that make you feel good. Below: you invest even less, you move lazily and you wait for the other to make your life easier. Yes, you’re a little selfish, we all are a bit, but you’ll write a hundred times: love is good when there are two of us doing it.
Where do i come from? In Greek mythology, Andromache (in ancient greek andrós, “man”, and chewed up, “combat”, “the one who fights the men”) was famous for this famous position. It is said that many men would have envied her husband Hector. The Amazons, “those who have no breast”, were, for their part, a people of warrior women. According to legend, they used to cut their right breasts in order to be able to shoot with archery.
Where am I going ? To conquer obviously! You ride time as well as love. You come and go (between our loins) so that we never really know where we are going to meet you. That’s why we care about you: you’re nice to see! In short, you will conquer all the beds.
Namely: beware, this is the royal position to break your penis (50% of cases).
The position of the spoon
Who am I ? You are often a woman, although some men are found in you. You are sentimental, tender, a bit immature, or possessive. You cherish the bodies that mingle gently. Here there is no need to shout. You can then whisper your wildest wishes or whisper “I love you” into your ear. You can finally say bad words, and cum in silence.
Your detractors will say that you need to be protected, even to make you brood. They may also think that this position lacks passion. So what? You will answer: “passion disturbs, but love tidies up. ”
Where do i come from? Kâma Sutra and a kitchen. Position 99 for some, the teaspoon (s) for others. Note that in English we say spooning: It can be useful !
Where am I going ? You live in the four corners of the globe, between the beginnings and the ends, fatigue, rest, or tenderness. You go out very early in the morning or very late at night. We know where to find you if we are looking for you and we feel good in your company. We can count on you. So you are going to continue your little piece of a quiet road, as you have always done.
Namely: sailing and steaming position, many possible variations: sitting, standing, lying on your back …
That being said, as Joseph Messinger reminds us, “the main thing in a relationship is that there is sensory coherence: a tactile person will be frustrated if he lives with a visual person. And just because you’re a visual couple (with little need for physical contact) doesn’t mean you don’t like each other. ”
References: Charlie Glickman and Ava Cadell, sex therapists.