Delicate, deep, frank or furtive, look at it or with your fingertips … caresses can be downright enjoyable if not orgasmic. Many people are very touched by a simple well-placed caress. We would even have, in the skin, nerve endings specialized in pleasure (source 1). And then don’t we say that we “caress” when we “masturbate”? So how do you do her sexy little cuddles? Here are our tips.
Four different massage techniques
“The massage as I practice it is therapeutic and does not fit in the caresses”, specifies from the outset Adeline Groshens, masseuse therapist. Indeed, a massage, whether therapeutic, relaxing or well-being, has nothing to do with an erotic caress. However, the different techniques to achieve it are good sources of inspiration to “pimp” your tender touches a little. Because, like massages, caresses can be exercised in several ways.
Slide fingers and palm over different parts of your partner’s body. It’s here star technique for caresses since it is the one that is the sweetest. In massage, this is generally used as a first contact, like a long hello that allows you to get in or out of the mood. Well, it’s the same here! This light touch allows you to familiarize yourself with the body of the other, to probe it discreetly.
Here, we make the same gestures while exercising a very light pressure. It’s like a kind of air massage, not deep at all. In addition to its stimulating virtues, this caress will promote blood circulation.
Stretching or sliding pressure
This is the method the most “technical” and also the hottest. Indeed, the pressure exerted with the fingers and the hands is stronger and the emotions will therefore also be increased. These sliding pressures can be more or less energetic, but be careful: you don’t have to take out the bazooka to catch the butterfly, and we have sensors that are sensitive to lightness and slowness. So we take it easy and we stay in the caress.
Vibration is welcome!
She goes create resonance in the other’s body and relax them. To do this, simply caress by tapping gently with your fingers or parts thereof. A bit like you do when you wait and roll your fingers one by one on a table …
Grinding, kneading, percussion or friction are, on the other hand, less suitable techniques for stroking.
Basic rules for a good massage
“You have to go gradually, explains our masseuse: start light and go deeper as you go.” In short, from a touch to a deep caress.
- Vary the pleasures: here you do not risk blocking your partner since everything will be done Carefully. So, express all your inventiveness and explore the different facets of the caress.
- Use the different parts of the hand (or others): each area has its advantages and are all tools for caressing. The edge of the hand which is firm and straight allows for example intense caresses, which untie; the pulp, it touches more precisely and delicately, it tickles; the nails can be used to make chills … In short, a real artillery of seduction! And again, it’s not just hands in life
- Use other “tricks” than the hands : feathers and feathers, hair, breath… In slow sex, we use a lot of its “soft accessories” which are nonetheless intoxicating.
Areas of the body to be caressed (excluding sexual organs)
There are, of course, areas that are more sensitive than others. Instinctively, our masseuse responds ” neck, head, glutes, chest, feet “. This is in line with what Julia Palombe, sexter and author ofIn bed, citizens!, when we asked her about the 5 massages she recommended to increase her libido. She had suggested that we massage under the armpits or behind the knee.
But, in truth, if there are a few “key spots” to know, the whole body is potentially receptive to caresses. These little sweets are placed on the mouths as well as on the cheeks or the crotch … No matter the place, as long as you are intoxicated!
Four things not to do when massaging the other
- Have shaky gestures, not assured: “Give your sleepy caress well equal your sighs and your lullaby gaze”, says Verlaine in one of his poems. Listen to the master! The caress must be cool. If you are stressed and awkward your partner will feel it. In these cases, opt for very simple caresses, like playing twirling the hair: easy, pleasant and sexy!
- Have frozen or sweaty hands (without oil) : by prayer, warm your hands well before massaging. A touch that gives you cold is extremely unpleasant! According to a scientific study dating from 2000: “The temperature of the caressing hand is around 32 degrees. “(Source 1)
- To stroke as one strokes a cat or a dog : that’s almost a kill-love. It’s a lack of delicacy and sensitivity that can cost a night of sex or outright scare a partner away.
- Fondling during conflict : at the risk of being rejected or annoying the partner.
The benefits of touch for yourself and your couple
- A tool for reconnecting to the body : overall, these tender or erotic bodily contacts will allow you to reconnect with your sensations, to be in the sensoriality, even to awaken your sensuality.
- A door to pleasure: from this well-being will result an ease to leave the mind and to to be more in the feeling. It is an invitation to let go and therefore potentially to take pleasure and assume it.
- A little bit of softness… In this world of brutes: caresses are to love what poetry is to literature. Beautiful, romantic, with varied and rhythmic shapes. They do good and go out of everyday life.
Sexually, caresses have many advantages: a way to connect to the other, a perfect introduction, basic foreplay / post-preliminary and choice … But beyond all that, they also allow you to reconnect with his body and to himself.
Sincerely yours and your beneficent taste buds.
Source 1: article “The art of caressing according to neuroscience”, psychologies.com, June 25, 2020.