Focus on the fact ofhave a child will not make it come any faster … Even if it is possible to control your fertility and to decide when we want to have a child, we don’t have control over everything, and certainly not over Mother Nature. This obsession with getting pregnant can, on the other hand, force your unhappiness in married life. So, how do you silence your body clock and your mind? Solutions!
If it is you: behavioral psychology recommends summoning your sentence to prevent it from catching up with you! Also, take 15 minutes a day to figure yourself out the worst. Force yourself to imagine what would be really terrible for you, like never having a child. Do not stop until the end of the fifteen minutes. At the beginning, it hurts very badly, I prefer to warn you: however, you will thus empty your pain of its emotional value. And, once this is over (do this work for at least a month), either life will prove you are right and then you will be so prepared that your pain will be lessened, or you will have the chance to see your dreams come true and your happiness will be increased tenfold. All good!
If this is your partner: iYou too must confront this reality and also the fact that your partner’s desire is at a standstill. Instead of trying to reassure her, to show yourself more or less tender, to try all kinds of approaches… rather tell her, frankly, that yes, she is right, it’s complicated to manage. Also tell her that this obsession killed her libido and that you need to get used to it. Explain that, to do this, you do not want to have sex for a while (two weeks, a month, whatever, as long as you keep your commitments!). Your outbursts of tenderness do not need to be repressed, only sexual intercourse is prohibited during the period determined by you. You need to set your own limits on the subject and speak up once and for all. Then let it flow!
In all cases : Realize that a person’s life is more than a series of tick boxes. Just as your existence is not reduced to childbirth, even if that is without doubt one of the most beautiful things there is. There are thousands of other joys and other adventures, not to mention what you already have … It would be a shame to miss all of this. By giving time to time and trusting it, you will stop worrying about the future. There’s no rush, no life is like another, and yours will be the right one for you, period.
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